When I feel too anxious to eat

Content note: In this post I talk about anxiety, struggling to eat, and mushy foods that help me.

Disclaimer: None of this is medical advice, just my thoughts! Please speak to your doctor if your mental and/or physical health is taking a turn for the worse at the moment.

I want to write about topics like this to normalise talking about mental health problems, especially as they are so prevalent in the bi community. It’s easy to look around and feel like you are the only one.

Do you ever get so anxious it makes you feel sick? Thankfully it doesn’t happen to me very often, but when it does I really hate it. It sticks around for ages and even when I do everything ‘right’ to help myself and self care nothing seems to make a dent in it.

I signed up for counselling. Exercise regularly. Get lots of sleep and rest. Talk to friends. Etc. etc. etc. thanks for nothing, anxious brain. I feel full all the time, and when I cook I can barely swallow more than a few mouthfuls.

When you feel like this, what food helps you?

For me soft, mushy food is all I can manage. My favourites are:

  • smoothies
  • sausages and baked beans
  • soup
  • porridge with cinnamon
  • ice cream & ice lollies

Something that helps me is, putting a small amount on my plate to start with so I’m not putting any pressure on myself. Often I feel able to go back for seconds – which feels better for me than starting with too much and feeling overwhelmed then having to put some back.

I try to be gentle with myself and remember that this round of anxiety will break at some point and I will feel a lot more normal again.

Hugs for all of us.

3 thoughts on “When I feel too anxious to eat

  1. I’m bi and have struggled with depression and anxiety most of my life. Deep breathing and exhaling slowly helps with anxiety. Weight training at the gym and walking also. I’ve taken medications too and all these things together keep me on an even keel most of the time.

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    1. Thanks for sharing. I’m glad these things can keep you on an even keel most of the time. Can I ask, does doing these things feel easy and natural for you?

      Sometimes doing all the things that work for me feels exhausting, because as soon as I don’t do them my mood spirals down. So there is a huge pressure to always be eating well, exercise etc. when sometimes I’d quite like a day or two to really relax and not worry about doing them.


  2. I know what you mean, taking care of ourselves does get exhausting. at times I have to force myself to do so. But it’s worth it. It is important too rest when we need to. `some thing I haven’t always done very well.

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